Reached Somewhere….Going Nowhere…

So , The decision to home school the kids was taken and the thought began to settle in our hearts….

In May , the feeling was pretty much subdued as the month of vacations was on and kids were  totally involved with well, boys’ stuff…cricket…video games …getting up late…

Come June and gradually it began to seep in. The routine began. Home learning felt as if we were moving house…..you take with you all the memories …good ones …you can take a few things with you to relocate but some things attached and unmovable …unnecessary maybe you leave behind.

We too had to decide what we will take of school and what we could leave behind for good or …

Suddenly there was no need to get up early and rush for school and that meant no need to forcefully get into bed early too. .we could linger a little and talk. We could watch a movie if we so liked. .there were suddenly no Monday Morning blues. Each one of us could have a me-time after a long day of work and spend time with our electronic friends…if we so desired. Kids did not have pressing deadlines to meet and that meant there was no demand on every hour. We actually stopped looking at the clock to ascertain how much time did we have to complete this or that or whatever…What relief!!!!

However we still belonged to the strong conditioning in our minds that kids need the paper and pencil and structure so we sat down and asked this all important question “What subjects would you like to study?” Language, math, science… History, geography was plain rejected. Then came the time to discuss HOW??Again we put the ball in their court. They decided mornings and certain parts of afternoons were good for them…we were delighted to actually find that we could discuss a lesson more in depth and they could write answers at length in their own interprets and I stopped putting in markings as previously I used to do…My first lesson…what is written is to be appreciated and maybe added to with your own tones. It cannot and should never be restricted to marks. 

That established…. lot of anxiety still lingered ….anxious heart beats over “Was it still the right decision?” We began our day at our class and soon another dilemma cropped up. We were asking other kids to do those same things that we opted out of. Now that needed balancing. I had to compartmentalise myself first as a mother…strategies that I used for my kids was a direct parental decision making arising out of changing the way we thought what we want for our kids in life. For starters we wanted that they should not have to go through the stress of bags and burdens of other people’s dictates of how they should acquire knowledge. Knowledge is everywhere …not only in textbooks but in little things...in the visit to a doc....in watching a movie …in arguing and learning about pain and win and lose and make up or walk apart…learning is all around.

Yet come June and the kids in the class walked in with portion papers and exam time tables stating the dates when the stress period would begin. Announcing when and what the kids need to mug up. Kids as young as first grade walked in with long answers which they cannot even read but had to reproduce…their speed…their grasping...understanding not in question but …reproduce they had to…or remarks poured in “needs to write fast” “be neat “ “needs improvement”…and tuitions are meant to fix these so called errant behaviours. Tuition as a system is a direct consequence of school acting as the verdict giving faculty…No one questions the school that we put our kids in school so that they may learn to read or write or improve…!! Then on who is exactly the school putting the onus of all the education the child is to receive. As a teacher I could see where the child was …what needed working and how much approximate time would that require…oh, but it had to now match the time tables of constant tests offered in school. I had to drop the mantle of mother within me. I could not give the same freedom and leverage to these kids whose improvement [good grades] I was responsible for. I had to drop my patience and agonisingly devise short-cuts so that these little ones can produce a good test record. On Fridays and Saturdays I could actually feel the tiredness in these kids eyes...my little ones I could give the freedom and say you do not feel like paper and pencil and book ….just leave it. I could not give the same respect to these first to ten graders to let it be. If they did not write some certain pages their parents complained...Give them heavy homework…WAS THE REQUEST.

Oh God!!! Was what they did throughout the week not enough? They needed to work even in weekends ….And I needed to compartmentalise….on a war footing.

I had to tell myself ‘this is work’ and had to follow the wily rules however much I did not agree with them. With my own kids it was a way of life. Our way of life! Two separate boxes and they needed to be kept separate. It took a while but I learned that bit by bit! I learned to tune out as soon as the last student walked off. I switched on when I entered the class. I tried my best to make it worth the class time...be inventive in how I give my lessons...overlook a bit when Monday homework was not turned in….

With my own kids also I learned to relax…when they played heartily and came back perspiring and huffing…I truly relaxed. Suddenly the whole issue of Socialising seemed to fall into its place. I actually realised I did not have much to do. .they had their own popularity, we had people constantly at our door asking for their company…wherever they went, at the class, at home everywhere.

We human beings still hate vacuum...we love problems and anxiety...we cannot seem to live without them...we cook them up when we have a smooth life...if one issue cools down we sort of create another…stay with me & LIVE MY CONFUSION .

Suddenly an unknown fear began gripping at me. What are my children’s interests that I can fan? I had met and was in touch with many home schooling parents and I saw them doing so much creative stuff...someone doing scientific experiments…some maths...some were talented in dance or music and giving concerts...someone so creative with craft and arts…

My boys were well boys …they loved cricket…played video games...diligently followed textbooks that we provided and absorbed the material. That was that. I am not a scientific person…have no creative craft in my entire system…my work schedule did not allow that we take off to various destinations on whims, visit places.

What are we doing then with our kids? Will we ruin their life? What talents we can nurture? And I spent sleepless nights and harrowing days …..

Then I decided to give myself a break….absolute break…went down to my basics. We were cool…chilled. Our routine well established and our decision affirming every day. So there was no harm in giving this anxiety a break. Stop thinking and just be ….

I learned to appreciate my kids in a passive mode. Just observe and enjoy them. There was so much time for them to go and begin an economic life. Why the competition in my mind? What is the hurry? Are they not just wonderful the way they are? Why play at getting creative?

When you relax creative things happen….my elder one signed up at IndiBlogger and has kick started a series on chronicling his experiences in school and how he feels about home schooling…dash of humour, tons of insight and there I have a thinking, feeling individual expressing himself as eloquently as he could.

My little one found his energy in a tennis class and was so super excited two days even before his class would begin…he is happy with his cricket bat. Tennis racquet. His video games…and his life.

Now can as a mother I not learn something so simple? They have taken birth with a mission…they have a long life to discover, uncover and explore. What is the hurry?

So I sit back and drop this mantle of worry …only hoping that I have unlearned and do not go on to adopt another silly issue…humans abhor vacuum you see…till then.

With a silent mind and content heart

I put my worries and concerns apart …

I begin to live ….

Sonnal Pardiwala

THE “U” Turn and UNLEARNING.

So for months we had looked at each other, nodded our heads at the school system which was not giving us the satisfaction of inculcating education for our children. Then my husband came up with the whole idea of HOMESCHOOLING. My first internal reaction was a resounding NO!!!!!!!!

I could not think of this as an alternative to our growing woes. To me it was the way to exist .That is what everyone does!!! My children were getting ranks in school .They were the toppers. It was a matter of pride to me and for me in the locality and for the family too.

Was I prepared to give it all up?? Besides I would tease my husband was he willing to let the school ways go?? He was the strict one!!! If we spoke of missing a day he was the first one to object….If the kids refused to get up he was the first one to disapprove ...I was more than happy to skip a day. .call it off after an outing…play hooky on a rainy day…We called him CENSOR BOARD…for he was very particular about the school  books and even would get down to packing their bags .I was relaxed and was ok if they got a remark or two.. mostly they would get for not carrying an art book or paints…well they did not like the session as it was highly boring according to them .He, the father, would frown and fret.

Now can you see what a mass of contradiction we both were .The strict one was willing to explore a completely uncharted territory hitherto and the relaxed one was frozen at the very prospect!!!

I thought we must work at changing the system by taking part in Parent teacher meetings and forums .We must actively get involved in the school by having high level meetings with the authorities and make them see the reason. Surely when they realise their mistake they would mend their ways!!! After all everyone wishes best for the children. I was so wrong. Then came a funny phone call that stopped me in my tracks!!!!

I did a major U turn and gave myself a chance to RETHINK…EVERYTHING THAT I THOUGHT!!!

My elder son is academically bright .He has grown up all his life observing me and his father express our thoughts in verbal form ... letters...articles books…So he was good at making up his own notes and articulating his answers, any subject… for ENGLISH LITERATURE, HISTORY, GEOGRAPHY, HINDI, MARATHI. His grammar was perfect as per the school standards as many concepts he had learned as a part of my coaching class sessions with other grades so he managed to get full marks in almost all grammar papers and literature stood highest however low the score he was the one who topped. So if teacher decided to give 11\25..he would be the one in the class to get it .All teacher could deduct was a part of compulsory cutting [it never made sense to me why they had instructions to compulsory cut marks???!!!!] The foolish reasoning put forward was “to avoid overconfidence”

Coming back to the topic, it was well known that we, parents of Shahen are Teachers of maths and languages. Many kids from other standards would approach him for markings in history and take suggestions for English answers. I got a phone call from his SCHOOL’S ENGLISH TEACHER with an explicit request “I want tuitions for myself as to how to teach English better”. For few seconds, all my coherent being went for a toss. Tuitions as such are looked down and disapproved by school. It is a condemned practice for students though it is a parallel education system. But no one is to openly admit to the benefits of tuition. I was used to a student requesting my services but the very teacher in charge of giving marks to students in a school!!!

Of course I had to be very careful in how I respond. Definitely I could not have entertained such a request as if at all the school authorities would discover it would be perceived as INTERFERENCE. My immediate response was to engage her in some polite conversation and find a decent way to say “no”. I told her it will not go down well for authorities if they were to find out and why she is finding difficult to teach. Then she revealed that she was simply a B.A. in ECONOMICS and her primary subject is not even English. The school principal had enforced this responsibility on her. She was told to refer to Wren and Martin and solve an exercise every day!!! That would improve her English…Wow!!!! She said she tried but there were so many concepts she just could not understand. Even some poems and their interpretations she was unable to do and so she played safe and gave 50 % marks in each answer. That explained so many things …the spelling mistakes and the lack of understanding displayed to essays and compositions….Phew!!!!

After that conversation I had to THINK…hard…What am I sending my kids to????That was my first UNLEARNING .I used to think schools impart knowledge. Now I asked “REALLY”. Who should I take my disappointment to? The teacher??? She was so helpless in front of the management. The Management??? They are not now interested in child development and neither interested in paying high salaries to recruit the right personnel who would do the job. Some major overhauling is required in our educational patterns but can I wait that long???

Now I was ready to go to my husband and ask “Can we actually get our kids out of school and still manage to do a good job? I had thousand apprehensions and yet now I was ready to ruthlessly examine my own ideology “Does finding a school with a certain curriculum amount to Education?” Is school the only campus to receive an education? Did my Masters in psychology degree help me in anyway? What did I get from my institutes?  It evoked in me long delicious hours of soaking myself in books in the library…making notes…understanding depths of a topic…noting debates on various issues…not many teachers that I can vouch for…

The one word here is EXPOSURE …..Can I not provide that to kids?? It was frightening too ...will I be able to offer? I shirked and let go of this dependence on school to get my children information, exposure and in general education…in letting go I took a u turn and decided to change ways ….

Then came a lovely learning experience CONFERENCE AT KHANDALA 2014. Till then I had just offered to change ways yet my years and years of conditioning of this is how we go into financial world and earn money, prevailed.

I recklessly asked questions, shared my fears, interacted with every person who was willing to. The certificate issue too got cleared as some kids were appearing for IGCSE & NIOS exams. For the first time we realised that there were some people who did not even care for school system. All my life I  had come across tense mothers soliciting advice on the right school…books…tuition classes…phonetics….Here I met moms who were not even giving school a thought, they were happy letting their kids just enjoy their childhood. OH YES!!!! Why burden them with bags and marks and competitions??? Why drag them out of their play time to attend school where they are expected to sit a certain way…eat a certain way…draw when told…write when told…stand in line when told…in short grow up to be adults who will do anything after only when they are instructed ,and told to do something…

We, parents, adhere to conformist notions in order to do the best for our children. That day in Khandala… I realised…. I woke up too late to this fact. All those days went past my eyes when my little one hugged me and cried and refused to go in the school and we had two maushis and a teacher dragging him from me…why? Oh why did I allow that????…why did I not think of hugging him back and say nobody will send you somewhere you do not want to go. Is that really discipline to do something against your will? Or is it discipline to do something that you want to do and you have the zeal to arrange everything so that it all turns out beautifully and you come out smiling from the endeavour? Is it truly structure to sit for hours in one position and take out books and listen to someone you know does not know half of what is involved in the topic?

One dear girl very wisely pointed out “If your children are as intelligent as you say, why you want someone else to decide in which grade they should be or what they should read or write or do????”

That kind of philosophy emerges out of free thinking. Here was a girl fearlessly and non-chalantly asking a forty year old something she had never ever figured it mattered. Yes why should someone else decide what they should do? Their intelligence their time their interests…Why meddle?? Why not enjoy their life unfold…Again I took a U- turn...I unlearned about school directing and labelling my kids……

So we turned inwards to check how we had allowed ourselves to get hyper anxious. Why we had bought into all these philosophies which did not add value to our children’s lives? Why had we outsourced this important need of our children?

Because that is what everyone does…there was no other way to exist. Suddenly I saw that indeed there was! We were the primary Educators of our children and can take on the Mantle of exposing them to stuff that will help them grow...think...flourish..

I spend sleepless nights debating and discussing with my inner self, with my better half and asking repeatedly my kids if they were ok with the decisions…Will they miss their friends? School activities? That made me realise how deeply conditioned we are to not flow against the current. We are so deeply taught to go along and do what everyone does and do it better than others…

My major learning or u turn came when I relaxed my guard and say to myself it is ok I do not have to adhere to anyone else’s opinion .Mine is the only one that matters. When I cook or shop for my kids I do not enlist or entertain anybody else intervening then why now??? Why for school???

15^th March 2014 was the last day of our formal schooling and instead of enjoying the vacation like usual I agonised ...did I do the right thing?...should we reconsider…to any one walking this path understand that this is a normal way of detaching ..it takes a while to accept your own decisions when they are totally against the accepted norm .I no longer felt the need to criticise or condemn school viciously as again the relaxed me realised they do what they do ..It is your call that makes all the difference .I have stored this reasoning one liner. .PEOPLE DO WHAT THEY DO ...IT IS YOUR CALL THAT MATTERS.

Then came a different experience. The need to prove that you did the right thing…so on 1^st April ...when the school restarts we too stood at the bookstore to buy books and oh boy!!!! We were in for a different experience…the book store owner refused to entertain us without the school name...we came back at a peaceful time we managed to get few…few he did not have and he still does not have... for us maybe…maybe not…he says schools have tied up with the publisher and so stores do not have books ...he is angry…makes sense [On a humorous note I felt like telling him to tie up with Home-schooling community ...He will have business galore and will never be let down]

Then in the midst of the crowd me and my husband we asked a simple question “Why this hurry? Previously there were tests …deadlines...notes to be made…school had started ...now what??? Now why?? To show whom?? To prove what?? Why this rush in the month of April only? BECAUSE WE ARE CONDITIONED BEINGS.REPETITIVE…HABITUAL CREATURES…

Ok we learned a new lesson. We could buy whenever and start with whatever books we have got. Even if we do not start who will ask us? We literally took a U-turn of our car and did not go in the shop. We did not have any standards to adhere to...we were actually ...really free. Any which ways if they would be in state board school they would be enjoying vacations …so whose yardstick we go by…none...

At home we began with the elder one. English lesson and for the first time “WE READ”. Till now we used to quickly read through and go through the lesson and discuss the probable answers and …he would go and attempt the test the next day. But that day we enjoyed for we read and discussed and understood and connect other stories related to it and importance of “HUMANITY”. That was the topic of the lesson. He clicked on the links given for Robert frost and came to know about Russian wall. ..Berlin wall…AND DISCUSSION VEERED TO COMPOUND WALLS AND WHOA…!!!! We had a blast. The next day he wrote extensive notes from the back of text .Long answers that took almost a day. But he took his time ...sitting in front of television...watching his show…talking with us...taking a break. The answers were cool. Then he asked me a natural question “How many marks test will you give me? “And I wondered at the futility of it all!!! He knew the lesson. Had read it thoroughly, made extensive and expressive notes now where was the need of a 25 marks test??? The proof, if any was required, was there.

As if to validate my musings Shahen’s previous year‘s class teacher whose son was in the same grade as him came home asking about home schooling. She wanted to know what we were doing and why and how…She was shown the book that we maintained ..She quipped that even though her son has given the test he still complains he does not understand the lesson .According to him it was boring.

When lessons only object is marks it is difficult to maintain interest…especially text is the only resource. The children have never picked up a newspaper in life nor done more than gaming on videos. There is a whole world of Google out there that is a resource but between writing and rewriting and mugging the interest factor is lost…We learned there is no need of a formal testing. If my kids so desire we will look into it and devise.

The developmental needs of my kids are different so the younger eight years old is playful yet. He loves maths and can solve pages but gets tired faster. I chose [yes I did. Old conditioning yet hanging on.] That he should learn French .We did basic questions like what is your name…where do you live... how are you …how old are you…He can ask and answer them. He strung few sentences in French on “myself”. Now he went around asking his dad …me …his friends these queries…so when I made him sit a little longer doing writing in French…He looked straight into my eyes and asked “In home learning am I not supposed to do something till I am interested?”

That got me…I have so much to learn and unlearn and learn again…my kids are my teachers. So in May  holidays I have actually taken a sabbatical and promised them we shall not discuss any book ... we will let them do what they want...we will only chill...get up when it suits…sleep when tired…Guess I am happy…happier than happy…rested…at peace…

No activity…no classes... no I need to do something…It is major learning for me to be this way. To not direct my kids no matter where or what…only maybe at two in the night I request that I am sleepy and will appreciate if they sleep…or in the noon…please get up…water will go…are the only directions we give…they bathe when they want…

Every new parent who enters this world I welcome all of you. I will be happy if you find something useful from my musings. I will be happy to share your experiences if anyone does. I request each one to open their journeys so each one who enters this world without school may find a little of their confusions  and a little of their solutions.

Musings continue…

Sonnal Pardiwala

ON THE THRESHOLD OF HOME LEARNING…BEING UNCONVENTIONAL OR BEING NATURAL???

ON THE THRESHOLD OF HOME LEARNING…BEING UNCONVENTIONAL OR BEING NATURAL???

I became a mother on 19^th APRIL 2001, and life changed. I held my bundle of joy and promised the world to him .Circumstances so transpired that we, as a couple, were led into starting a coaching class in order to make a living. That one classroom became our KARMABHOOMI. In a way we were sort of homejobbing so that we could take care of our little boy and work around our own limitations of not being able to go into the job world.

As we worked with the little kids ranging from age five to fifteen we were exposed to all kinds of fibs and strife of school life. Preparing them for exams was part of our job and that is where we realized the immense stress these kids carried. We saw and felt very closely the mad race for MARKS…The cramming just on the last days…the atrocious oral taking up of the answers …wrong spellings. Try as we might some kids just could not get the spellings right or a certain subject was totally unfathomable. Writing creative stuff like essays or letters or reports or speech was just not possible in the very MEDIUM they aspire to be. Parents cited the reason that since it is a non- English background child is unable to write ….I was totally aghast when a suggestion to simply make them BYHEART the stuff given in their school books….PHEW…I could feel compassion for these mothers who wanted their kids to show a better report card or at least better than the ones they were competing with….the crazy obsession with maths have to be observed to know the devastation it creates …only few survive and stay afloat...often tuition kids went to two or three maths coaching other than coming to us. The reasoning being ..more the teachers more the learning…expensive the fees better will be the result…the students were crushed and are repeatedly crushed…parents did not consider the good marks in OTHER SUBJECTS…after all how will he or she take science?? No one ever asked the child, “Do you want to take SCIENCE?”

So when it was time conventionally to get my kid enrolled in a school we knew the inside out of all the schools in the vicinity. We went to all of them and found them sorely lacking. The staff was not too cordial.[some unwritten law permits the school staff to deal with parent community in an offhand manner]Toilet facilities repugnant….crowded classrooms.. At one point I fainted thinking my child may get trampled if there was a stampede during breaks. I was of course told I was being paranoid. Children adjust is what I was told…did we all not manage??

Finally we came across a small school with a ratio of 1;20 .We were thrilled. Prompt admission and well we basked in the glory of being responsible parents.We enjoyed the subsequent years sports day…annual day…grandparents day…pyjama party…hmmm

Then came my second bundle of activity and we put him too in the same school. As they say after the honeymoon the practical life begins….As our kids began to proceed into higher grades the Cracks in the system began to become apparent. Till it was “Jack n Jill” and 2+2 makes four it was all well ….

We realized slowly that the teachers do not have fluency in the very medium they teach…in order to  hide the inadequacy of lack of skilled staff the assessments were manipulated and at times modified to suit the client and varied according to their demands. There was no curriculum …no grammar portion…

The teachers cancelled the correct sentences my kid wrote and wrote wrong sentences over it. My poor child came home thinking he has made a mistake...After all, Teachers are GOD at that age. What took the cake is the goof up on TORTISE!!!!! YES ANYONE WHO KNOWS ENGLISH WILL JUMP AT THE SPELLING I WROTE …IT IS INCORRECT …I know it is…stay with me and you will know why I wrote that…There was a test and in the blank my kiddo wrote TORTOISE as the answer .That is the blank he was given incorrect one mark was cut. We thought there was a misunderstanding and went to meet the teacher .SHE INSISTED THE SPELLING WAS INCORRECT AND SHOWED US THE TEXTBOOK!!! After all the printed word is FINAL…This prestigious and expensive publication had written TORTISE and obviously we parents were so ignorant!!!!

Not so easy on giving up I NOW DUG MY HEELS AND INSISTED THE SPELLING WAS TORTOISE…We were the customers so the head of the department was called in. They logged into the INTERNET to verify the spelling …Surprise …surprise…TORTOISE!!!! They tendered an apology and corrected the mistake realizing their goof-up. My kid was happy. Being an avid reader from childhood, he intuitively knew the correct spelling. He did not need a publication to tell him …however the teacher needed the net and printed book to establish a spelling.

By way of explanation, we were told that they are not able to find good teachers “All the highly educated teachers are joining call-centres and so we face a shortage of quality teachers” INDEED

Later years brought more goof-ups…added to bus woes…heavy bags…repetitive tedious SPORTS DAYS[NOW]…Expensive senseless costume hunting for a thirty second annual day performance…rigorous tiring annual day drills…

We wondered at the month long preparations for the so called annual day and sports day .At the end of the year we saw many-many chapters and concepts in the textbooks untouched. When pointed out to the school the only response we got was “textbooks are so lengthy …there is not enough time!” OF COURSE …busy little people. What did we know as parents??

As the year turned we realized scores of notebooks we bought were empty. Scrap book…Dictation book…Composition book….grammar notebook…question and answer book…math book…geometry book…map book…history….each had been used for maybe once or twice. Pages and pages went empty. Come the next year we had to buy all of them again.

When we asked the kids what did you do at school today? The answer we got varied from…Nothing…went to the club…teachers were absent…I slept…Kids never complained when we missed the alarm and they missed the day. They were more than happy to sleep late and catch up on their favourite cartoon.

So we thought we had made a wrong choice and WE CHANGED THE SCHOOL. We jumped from fire into a frying pan!!!!

This one was a bigger school …grand facilities…home-staff to manage water coolers and toilets and cleanliness…their own auditorium …ground…roomy classrooms not the pigeon holes of the previous school. There was no A/C though which our kids were accustomed to. However the class had forty kids but their own chair n desk. Some Trade off we had to do. As time went by, my kids excelled academically. Often the younger one was pulled up for taking non-veg food [egg sandwich]…to junk food[you see for the teacher the home -made pasta I sent  was JUNK FOOD].He was fired for completing his worksheets earlier than she explained. Elder one too excelled and got straight away full marks in almost all the subjects.. .except English…YOU SEE THEY HAVE INSTRUCTIONS TO NOT GIVE FULL MARKS IN THE SUBJECT.

My kids excelled academically despite no notes no proper test format .Whatever was asked they solved with lot of common sense God has endowed them with and the avid reading they do helped them just glide through the thing called Exams!!!!

We as parents never had to create a regime or study time for them to give tests. We never had to tell them to sit with their books when there was a test. They did it on their own surveyed their field and were ready!!!!!

But again the heavy Bags with tons of paraphernalia…often unneeded….Sports day…Activity day…Annual day…here it was worst. The staff as I said had the license to treat the parents as an unwanted but inevitable appendage.

The Principal felt that Parents were all an uncivilized and savage ill -mannered lot who have not trained our kids. So every disciplinary issue that came up it was always the parents who had to take the onus of their kids misbehaviour.

Any kind of academic GOOF-UPS just had to be ignored .If the kid did not understand a maths concept it was not the teachers fault but the child who did not pay attention when the teaching was done. Any discrepancy in the question paper was not to be corrected. You just had to accept all that the teacher corrected. If you dared to involve higher authorities it would take months for the sheet to come back. Often they realized the goof but never accepted .The child was reprimanded and chided. I remember my little one complained one day of heavy corporal punishment from a teacher in his class. Her bangle broke on the head of a second grader .When I put in a written complaint, my kid was called and interrogated “Are you lying? “The proof was sitting in the nurse room getting treated due to the bangle injury!!!!!No parent was willing to come out in the open and protest. This eight year old had the unequivocal courage to ask me “Mom, How could I allow my class-mates to be beaten? You always tell me beating is wrong!!!!”

THEN WE FATHER and MOTHER of these two kids wondered, What NOW???? If the math and English and science and social sciences they learned on their own with a little help thrown in from our side…what are we sending our kids to…

When my kid is injured during the annual day practice all the school authorities including Principal and counselor is interested in knowing…Will he perform? We will announce his name as an example..

This came as a rude eye opener at a time when my elder one had an injury on his eye in the school and could not open his eyes for a week!!!!!!

It was not their responsibility!!!!!

Whose responsibility is it anyway????

Their staff cannot speak English…Parents must stimulate English Reading…

Their toilets stink…there are no stoppers to lock the doors…water guns do not provide water…According to them parents have not installed clean toilet habits in children…

Bags are heavy leading to backaches …parents must make their kids strong….

Again we pondered…whose responsibility is it finally…

Kids were ours…their childhood preciously slipping away…their creativity stifled…their academic brilliance not given wings or appreciation..

On Monday they waited for Saturday holiday…And then My husband, bless his soul...he came across this Lovely ALTERNATIVE…HOMESCHOOLING…

We call it HOME-LEARNING now….

But the decision was not easy…With the perks came the dark clouds of gloom and indecision. The dragon called CERTIFICATE….In INDIA if you want to navigate in a college or any institute for further studies we need an appropriate certificate from an approved board. State board you had to show your ninth grade failing document or a previous failure document…I may be wrong ...my research is on. ICSE board has no provision for private candidate….IGCSE offers private candidates an outlet but schools will provide a desk and paper only…NIOS IS SUPPOSEDLY UNDER SCANNER FOR CLOSING DOWN…that is what we heard.

Now what shall we do? If we pull them out will they miss the daily peer stimulation? This is a question we asked now but never before when vacations came. Suddenly the guilt crept in. Are we being selfish and cutting them off from their lifelong peers???

Why shake the APPLECART? Why not like others accept the faulty but fool proof system of getting a certificate. My kids anyway were good with their paper and pencil.

Why am I being so critical of everything when others live with it? If the kids are with us all the time will we be able to tackle the mammoth task of constantly stimulating them?

Are we playing with their future? Are we being impulsive and not giving this enough thought? Are we simply adopting this as a fad? What if we get tired but there is a point of no return?

And yet with the doubts gently crept in the word FREEDOM. Kids would be free of assessment ..This weird assessment system made by our policy makers who, neither know the questions and do not care for my children and their innovative answers. According to them there is one set of answer to a question…whereas there are as many answers as one can make up and the ones that work for each individual.

I feel suddenly  free. I am on a path that will teach my kids to value themselves for just being them. Sky is the limit to what they can dream .They do not have to do something because everyone is doing It. They will do something because it excites them…it makes them come alive .It stretches their imagination and not only their memory…They can solve real life problems like getting into the bank and making entries into their own accounts…they can cook and know the laws of heating & cooling and the basic skill to survive anywhere on the planet…They can just be….

Certificates I guess…if as a community we get together we can find a way…We home learners are a relaxed lot who are redefining learning…quietly assessing conventional thought and asking a very vital question…

If this worked yesterday for me or my parents… is it necessary it applies today for my child???

Does something have to be done this way…can right and wrong not coexist?

Am I willing to not constantly keep clearing the path of my child but give him or her a bushy road and give the satisfaction of clearing it? Learning important lessons whilst they figure out a way to clear and forge a different path for him-self or her-self?

Am I willing to put my torch down and get myself out of this mould where I have to constantly protect?

Am I willing to be just a facilitator and not the know-all supermom?

Can I open up to the fact that the little one can teach me a thing or two?

Can I trust Providence to find a way for my children in future? Lot of things regarding education is changing…maybe schools will change someday but I cannot wait …my kids childhood is going by…it will never return.

So YES…we turned in the application for school leaving certificate and still I doubt if WE DID THE RIGHT THING?????

Still I get up in sweat at night suddenly imagining my kids labelled as school drop outs!!!My father first wondered at it and even suggested removing them from school may raise concern over our financial status as if we were unable to fund their studies. He could understand this only in one way that was the only reason your kids were pulled out of school….

He cannot for the life of him understand how we can cut school?????It was a necessity of life ...a way of life…for what you work…what you do to get status in society.. For all of us wanting to walk on this path we need to ask very vital questions to self and truly introspect in a deep, deep way.

Ask simply WHY DO I WANT TO DO THIS?

At the Conference in Khandala we met many brave [according to me] souls who had never send their kids to school!!! However, we who have climbed the steps of a system and have now decided to opt out or are on the path of making up our minds, this becomes a vital question. There are as many reasons as there are people and children. For some a certain unpleasant experience or series of experiences trigger it. For some the child has a special need and the school cannot or will not do justice. After all they are dealing with numbers here and they need a standardized system to deal with the numbers. For some it is disillusionment with the way it stifles the tender minds of young ones under the guise of creating a standard system for all. For some the child excels in a particular skill and needs to devote full-time to it.

Pick your time and be sure in your mind what is it that you are wanting to redefine or reinstill.

NEXT ASK WHAT IMPORTANCE DO CERTIFICATES HOLD IN MY SCHEME OF THINGS?

We grew up thinking that schooling is a must and if you do not have a degree you have no value. We were told again and again and again...till we adopted this as a way for life and never really questioned it. At times we dimly recollect hating the tests or how we happily skipped school. But in the overall scheme of things school, college and if circumstances permit higher education was a must. It added value to us as human beings. Even today we are introduced through our educational qualifications...M.A  in so n so…M.B.A…..Dr….In these scenarios then how important is it for us to perpetuate that same way of life for our children. As when I think today, I still am looking only at the Academic ladder as the only way to earn a decent living. My children as of today do not display any special skills of music or dance or drama or any such …

In that case, how will I then go forward and function out of school? There are options mind you if you are willing to go that extra mile…My government has yet to wake up to the existence of this community of HOME-LEARNERS. For them there are only two categories of kids. The ones who go to school and the ones who do not. The ones who go to school they come up with laws from time to time…scrap the unit tests…pass them till grade eight …after ninth???Well they have grown up and fend for themselves you see…get ready for public exams and bang you go…all taken care of. Your reports…your school leaving certificates…you can move forward in life onwards and off to becoming a doctor…engineer…graduate...whatever…

But the ones who do not go to school well …they are not EXISTING. They must be forced by some circumstances like poverty or family issues to not go to school…for them there are  Government aided schools to give them free education. No other line of reasoning is acceptable. What if they cannot cope with school? What if they feel deeply upset in the school? What if I as a parent wish to stimulate, educate  my child my way….THERE IS NO PROVISION…

As a saving grace you do have private state board or if you can afford it a foreign board which with adequate fees and some flexibility allows your child to acquire the MUCH NEEDED CERTIFICATE TO NAVIGATE FURTHER..

Now ask are you willing to completely let go off this need for certification [unschoolers …cheers!!!!!]??? OR are you willing to enjoy the intermittent freedom and work extra during those vital years of Certifications??

IMPORTANT QUESTION IT IS & apt; THINK VERY DEEPLY ABOUT IT.

NEXT ASK WHAT WILL YOU DO ACTUALLY WHEN YOUR CHILD OR CHILDREN ARE WITH YOU AS YOURS TO MOULD AND BEHOLD AND GUIDE?????

You will need to be an alive and alert and an individual who himself or herself is in love with life. The more time your kids spend time with you the more they ask questions and maybe you can create your own memoirs...mini Upanishads…The ability to provide stimulation to children. Schools ,if nothing else ,help keep the kids away from home for some hours and send them back with work or tiredness to keep them further occupied…either in tuitions or resting…At home they will have so much energy and questions and What do I do now???

You do not have to now look at an external force like school to fix them….so to speak.

ASK, am I willing to allow life to unfold in uncertain ways? Can I be O.K. with sometimes my kids doing nothing??? Can I provide things that will sustain their interest in life? Can I deal with all and many changes that come-by which I may not be aware of today? Kids change very quickly…what they like today will change the next day? I as an individual will have to refocus my lenses every now and often??

To many of this I do not have satisfactory answers but I am enjoying each day this uncertainty of this path…it is a new Beginning for all four of us.

May we expand our vision each day. There is a wonderfully intelligent...loving …non-judgemental family of home learners out there ready to talk and help….

GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF US. WE DARE TO BE DIFFERENT WITHOUT BEING REBELLIOUS. 

We dare gently to tell the convention that we do not agree with you yet we do not blame you .We wish to take our lives into our hands and shape it to our satisfaction. Our life is our and only our responsibility!!

© SONNAL PARDIWALA

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It is world HEART DAY. A lovely day to focus on our bodies and what keeps it going.Our heart begins working from the time we are in our mother's womb till the day we cross over.

There has been much fearful talk on how we are affected by food degradation and its nutritional value.There is enough material in the newspapers how we need to eat healthy .So much tch tch is going on about the pollution and its after effects.How the subsequent generation is getting weaker and weaker .When i asked the angels I simply received a simple answer and it says

'Worry ,fear and stress cause more danger to our systems than any degradation.We are

 HUMAN SPECIES..HIGHLY..HIGHLY...ADAPTABLE AND HAVE BEEN OVER ALL THESE EONS.All the changes in our evolution has established one important fact that we SURVIVE AND THRIVE under every circumstance put forward by our makers.That is the reason man survived in arctic zone to a desert zone.We have been bestowed with this amazing gift to adjust and adapt to just about every environmental change.The accounts of people who survived trying circumstances ...tragedies..all go to prove this fact that human will is what helps the bodily instrument to stay on or leave.

That does not mean in any way that we neglect our diet or not incorporate healthy exercise and other regimes.

ARCHANGEL RAPHAEL comes in to give the age old but forgotten formula to stay healthy,active and happy.

As you look at the cards the formula is revealed.The first and the only requisite that we need is STAY POSITIVE.The single most emotion the moment we hear talks of illness...pollution...radiation...food degradation..is a spiraling negative emotion and the down slide of health begins not with the factors mentioned but with the dark negative thoughts that beset .Another important ingredient that our ancestors gave premium importance is GOOD SLEEP AND REST.In the previous days man took to bed quite early and followed the rhythms of day n night which kept them healthy.Lot of thought was given to creating comfortable bedrooms and sleep space.When someone fell ill firm directives were handed to rest..rest...rest..

In today's busy world this simple asset to health is neglected and so medicines fail to work faster.People want to take that pain killer and get to work ,deal with stress,work till late in the night completing projects and LO AND BEHOLD!!! We are gifted a weaker body and health.

SLEEP AND REST when your body so says and you will not need all those groggy days and test reports.

Another important resource which BODY HAS BEEN ENDOWED WITH is our NATURAL HEALING ABILITY.A source with which we have lost trust and never ever look upon.We always look at the doctor to fix us ..however we have a unique system .When we have a sickness or we fall or something gets us down our HIGHER CREW WAITS for us to decide to use this ability.However when we decline they respect our free will and let it be for us to deal with it.

All the animals have this ability and they are in touch with it.On this day let us tap into this lovely, gentle energy that can get us out and back and singing.

Every day newspapers announce Healthy foods that we can eat to remain so.They recommend organic foods are the best and yet FAST FOOD CHAINS ARE RAINING OFFERS and making millions!!!

Think about it .Rather bless your food with your hands and send love before you partake of it.

WORLD RELIGIONS HAVE HAD THIS BLESSING THE FOOD RITUAL and not without reason.

Simple formula; STAY POSITIVE

                        SLEEP WELL

                        TAP YOUR OWN ABILITY TO HEAL .

                        EAT WELL AND BLESS IT .

© SONNAL PARDIWALA

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Oracle for EVERYONE...

ORACLE – A PERSONAL COMMUNICATION FROM ABOVE!

Oracles are personal messages we are given practically every moment of our existence …right from the time we become conscious about our thinking and analysing capacity. Before that too our higher crew is active in protecting and guiding our actions. They want the best for us and are constantly sending us loving guidance. It takes the form of thoughts…a brilliant idea you may get…a hoarding…an encounter with a person…a song on the radio…a newspaper clipping ...a quote in your facebook feed..

However, we all are not attuned to intuitively tune in and trust our inner guidance. We are constantly guided to look for answers outside ...never within, by our past conditioning.

I would like to share a personal anecdote that gave me firm...loving ...scolding guidance but after that I have learned to trust this important source of inner communication.

I was in a car and having a nasty go at my husband. He meekly allowed me to rant and rave. While we were in a heavy traffic, he had no choice but to patiently do the dual work of driving and hearing me. Something passed me by ...first time I ignored it...second time I took notice….Third time I burst out laughing and even at my humbling admission had to tell my husband. I impishly pointed out to the rickshaw’s back hoarding which said…MOUTH SHUT.com!!!!!

By all means it was a firm and loving and humorous way of my higher-folks telling me to shut up and let my poor husband be…it was their way of pulling me and telling me ...well enough now!…whose higher beings? That has yet to be ascertained!!!!But they have sense of humour!!!!Three autos had passed us with the same message.

When we talk of oracle cards...It is an organised system of getting your communication right and discussing it with a loving card reader who may provide insights and opportunities to unravel your dynamics. There are oracle cards for virtually every situation…health…abundance…life purpose…choices…family relationships…spiritual development…growth guidance…healing guidance… romance…and specific steps one can take to rectify and /or heal a situation.

People think of cards as a parlour game and something not to be taken seriously. Cards operate on LAW OF ATTRACTION. You will pull out those cards that address specifically to your situation. Most definitely a SENSITIVE card reader is required to interpret the guidance.

People generally think when there is a crisis situation we must consult the card …I feel you must consult it daily…weekly...as often as your thoughts are shaping your reality and so the equation of cards will change too. For example I kept getting a card that asked ‘are you willing to forgive?’  Two days later it showed … ‘be willing to forgive’…ten days later… ‘Who are you willing to forgive?’...the cards reflected my dynamics with this emotion. From toying over the concept to seriously considering it…to actually meditating and finally reaching the level of forgiveness and release…the cards showed it all.

Consulting cards to get you predictive answers is a little tricky as what you want and what you are focusing on is constantly changing and cards may give out a firm MAKE A DECISION….OR WAIT...directive.

Oracle cards are excellent facilitators of looking at the situation…understanding the dynamics…reflecting on your readiness to resolve and take guided action…and finding out if this is a favourable time to go ahead or wait and make some necessary changes.

At a daily level let us assume that a person has a presentation to make and the card says...have confidence…self -respect…compassion…it tells the person to not become defensive in his/her interactions and be ready to incorporate views or counter views that may be raised and be willing to elaborate and keep a peaceful frame of mind. If we have a person about to purchase an important property and card says ...explore your options or wait …then yes it would benefit to do more research and get to the core of the purchase aspects. For health....they may recommend second opinion....rely on natural healing….recommend recovery or healing from surgery…or alternative healing methods.

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Chakras - Our Natural Healing Mechanisms.

In Ancient times people lived a long and healthy life. They spend their lives in a harmonious and balanced way, in all the phases of their lives. In their childhood, they spend all their days in student mode, gathering knowledge to make a decent life. Girls learned household chores and management skills from their folk and men learned the ancestral occupational skill. In Adult life, as Grihasthha and Grihani they gracefully learned to fulfil their socio-religious roles and approached old age with maturity handing over the reins of knowledge and property to their offspring .Most of them headed to forests spend life devoting it to God. They lived a fulfilled life so when time came to leave the mortal plane, they sighed and slipped into the higher plane knowing fully well that they shall reincarnate.

If in their life they had any ailment that required medical assistance, they had VAIDYAS who used the Ayurveda system to heal their Doshas .They used natural herbs, plants, minerals and lots of faith to prepare their remedies .They prescribed rest as a sure shot way to cleanse the presenting condition. Lifestyle issues like Diabetes, High blood pressure, Thyroid etc. were not as rampant as today.

Yoga as a natural form of exercise was practiced. Simple diet, simple needs; natural healing methods were a part and parcel of Ancient world for survival and longevity.

We were created with natural healing ability~ is what we have heard time and time again. Everything around us is energy. How will this help us keep our health? Where is this natural healing ability residing within us ????

And the Answer is CHAKRAS. It is an ancient Sanskrit word which means `wheels of light’. We have major and minor wheels opening in our entire body as well as our etheric body. These spinning wheels of light are our caretakers. They send out and take in energy and are largely responsible for our mental and physical health and even our spiritual health.

In a normal balanced mode these chakras are spinning gently luminous with their respective colours. They accept energy from the back and send energy through the front. We all have had this experience of a tingle at the back when we recognise someone we know who has walked in without so much as turning our eyes to them ,we just know!!Our back chakras instantly make a connect to the front chakras of the person.

We send out our emotional responses through our front wheels constantly to the world; so a person instantly knows when someone instantly likes, dislikes, admires,approves, hates, cringes...without so much as exchanging a word.!!!It is our own cosmic dance of give and take of energy to and from the environment.

How does it affect our health??

Each chakra governs associated glands and organs which are all interconnected. If certain energy is accepted or sends and it is positive it aligns the chakras .However due to continuous give and take they gather unsuitable energy of anger, irritation, annoyance, tiredness; it begins to clog up the chakra. Too much stimulation overloads a system and maybe the chakra enlarges or shrinks. It in turn affects the health of adjoining organs and glands. Let us take an individual who is often angry at others naturally his heart sends out much unpleasant energy to others from front area however back heart does not get any love energy to nourish this chakra, soon this chakra shrinks and many develop breathing issues or cardiac issues if the wear and tear of age has set in.

This is a general example not meant for any medical diagnosis and intuitive reason to keep anger energy out of our systems.

Our Ancestors knew this cosmic dance of energy and so probably breathing, yoga and meditations were included as daily practice. These gentle ways cleansed, balanced and energised the chakras on a daily basis.

As the time went by this knowledge was lost and only recently all spiritual systems-WESTERN OR EASTERN have woken up to it. They have realised that the healing lies within the body and all we need to keep disorders at bay is to simply clean, clear, balance and energise it.

Let us get to know them. Before we do understand that we liken these energy centres to rooms of our body. Due to constant interactions with the environment, people and our own thoughts and emotions we are filling up some desirable and undesirable material. Just as we would need to dust, clean, wipe or mop the rooms daily to maintain the optimum cleanliness of the rooms, so do we have to keep up our work with the chakras. So, let us learn what they are, and where they are and what do they do??

*This diagram is for reference purpose only.

The FIRST CHAKRA is known as MULADHARA OR BASE CHAKRA. It is red in colour and is situated at the juncture of upper body and lower body. It deals with our grounding and security issues at spiritual level it stores our emotional fears especially the ones related to survival and finances. It also governs release and elimination functions Blood related functions are also governed by this chakra. Material concerns are processed here.

Next is SWADISTHANA or SACRAL CHAKRA. It is orange in colour. It is located at our lower abdominal region and is the seat of our creativity. It holds all our emotional depressions here. Ashrunk sacral chakra may denote low self-worth. It governs the functions of our reproductive organs and sexual organs, kidneys spleen etc.

Around our Diaphragm and below the Breastbone lies our MANIPURA or SOLAR PLEXUS CHAKRA. It is yellow in colour. It rules stomach, pancreas, liver, gall bladder functions. It is also the seat of our memory determination and willpower....also stores our anger and confidence in self. Our ability to carry out a plan is largely dependent on how well coordinated this centre is.

One of the most important chakra...a centre from where we give and accept love is our HEART CHAKRA or ANAHATA...the one that does not make a sound. It is green in colour. So often we are emotionally hurt but we take it all in and store it here.It is the centre primarily responsible for purifying our blood the vital force that sustains the physical body.It rules our lungs that bring in oxygen that tells us we are alive.A malfunctioning heart chakra can lead to host of ailments...blood pressure,asthma,cardiac issues to mild bronchitis

VISSHUDHA or THROAT CHAKRA a bright blue energy centre is responsible for communicating our ideas to the world .We tell the world what we are and what we want with the help of this centre. Imbalance in this area is a major cause in illness from sore throat to thyroid issues. to hoarse voice.

Another vital centre is our THIRD EYE or ADNYA CHAKRA. It is situated in the middle of our eyebrows. It governs our pineal and pituitary glands. It is the seat of our perception, thoughts, planning, and intuition. It vibrates to indigo colour and governs head, eyes, nose, ears hence headaches to sinus to lack of planning all can be traced to this centre. It is the first centre to heal if we want a divine connect.

SAHASRARA or CROWN CHAKRA is the final chakra in our physical body .It vibrates Golden VIOLET and it is our direct connect to God. We receive eternal GOD ENERGY into this pure space.

A daily system is needed to clean, clear, align and energise these centres so that we may enjoy flawless health. Also it creates tremendous movement in ourselves if we pay attention to them regularly. Would it not be then a very inexpensive but a natural way to stay healthy and receive answers to our life conditions? Find it immensely empowering to take my health in my own hands and make a committed effort to heal myself the way my forefathers and foremothers did!!!

I have shared a way to heal chakras on our web radio. Do tune in and claim your share of health. Do write in with your experiences. ONLY POSITIVE ONES. 

I STAND FOR POSITIVITY AND SO IT IS.

ETERNAL HEALTH IS MINE AND I ENJOY IT DAILY.

©Sonnal Pardiwala

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Healinityy...be your own healer...counsellor...therapist..friend

~    HEAL D HEALTHY    ~

A very unique phrase struck me when I was pondering over these new ways and tools of life that I had discovered lately.

Yes, I had learned the profound power of gratitude that could turn my life around from pain to happiness …from despair to absolute optimism …

I HAVE LEARNED TO FEEL EMPOWERED IN MY JOURNEY OF LIFE…

& was I sick when I approached healing modalities???Was I in dire physical or mental situation where I needed physical intervention of medical drugs??? Was I in a suicidal mode???Was I not functional in my day to day work as an earning member or a family member???The answer to all of this is a CATEGORICAL & EMPHATIC, “NO”

I look back at my last decade and I realize I have come far from what and where I was. I am a wife who dealt with being pampered and unpampered …. I have faced the whole gamut of being loved… lost…hurt….arguments…hatred….anger ...depression…..hope….admiration...re-building…repair …understanding …compassion and LOVE AND OPTIMISM ALL OVER AGAIN.

SO…the question again, was I unhealthy???In a way yes and in a medical way NO….

Was I UNHAPPY???YES…

Most of us go about life being in a normal state of functional health…

we of course have our pet health issues which we cart around for SYMPATHY… headaches…joint pains...back pains… sinus…allergies….seasonal - fevers…which we love to flaunt to whosoever we meet…how we have tried everything under the sun and have not found a cure (or not wanted to!!)

Most of us ,go about life working and earning in a way of life where we dream of always being somewhere ,dreaming of that “once in a lifetime chance”…and sighing and going about old way of life never really taking that one decision that can change the way we earn…and feel happy..

Most of us, go about our relationships ….actually go about in rounds …even siblings do this…rounds of who is doing better in life …who has a better home!!!!Better income!!!Better spouse!!!Better children!!!Better contacts!!! Better everything!!! And life is one unhealthy round of dissatisfaction with life not being upto that someone’s mark!!!!

Now do we consider our-self healthy???OFCOURSE WE DO….are we happy??? WELL………

HEALINITYY as I discovered on my way gave me that peace of mind we call happiness….tools to create my SELF-ESTEEM which was battered by unnecessary comparison….compassionate way of looking at self and others to create fulfilling relationships with ones who nurtured me and let go the ones who did not serve any purpose in my life other than make me feel small or unwanted and I thrived!!!!! It showed me a WAY OF LIFE to create an inner relationship with myself and learn my power as COCREATOR of my destiny….AND I REGAINED MY BIRTH-RIGHT TO DREAM AND PURSUE MY DREAM.

REIKI…my first friend in my path…MY DOCTOR…so many seeming favourites that I carted around as achievements for illness just dissolved as Reiki gave me the insight that humans are programmed to be healthy and enjoy great health…so loose motions to headaches to fevers and post pregnancy issues just evaporated …just like that….

CRYSTALS were another set of friends that taught me to relax when my mind stubbornly refused to relax and let go…just putting a piece on my body settled my jangled nerves and drained away all my stress of work and day to day wear and tear…AND along the way it healed and took away the stored hurts and resentments for I turned back and realized “hey! I have not given this a thought in a long time!!!” “WOW!!”

Another medico alternative relaxant I found were my AROMA OILS….Boy they are so supercool….they relaxed tired head…muscles...back. They brought TREMENDOUS SENSE OF PLEASURE ...THE KIND THAT COMES WHEN SOMEONE GENTLY TINGLES YOU WITH A FEATHER….I as a mother of two had resigned my faith to low sexual drive and resultant less pleasure….but these oils turned the whole scene around gently …lovingly…without even a whisper ….so very efficient no meeting quackos who claim to listen to your stories and tell you, you did this wrong and that needs helping…just silent empowerment …no words exchanged only help extended….Besides sexuality they help restore a sense of relaxed transformation when you want to cut off from an exhausting day and step into your zone…it gives you A SENSE OF WELL-BEING!!!!THE FEEL OF AAAHHHH!!!! MINUS THE ADDICTION OFCOURSE….!!!!

AND THEN ANGELS TOOK OVER …THE BEST DYNAMIC LIGHT TO ENTER MY LIFE!!! Wise benevolent beings who gave me my identity...my new lease of life…their cards are my 24 hour consultant who tell me what I can do at any juncture of my life…what impact can a certain decision may bring…..reprimand me gently when I have been stubborn…their gentle healing techniques have cleared and released so much of unwanted debris in my body…physical or otherwise….and I am BUBBLING WITH NEW HOPES..A SPRING IN MY STEP!!! AND ABILITY TO HELP THOSE WHO WANT TO SHARE IN THIS LIGHT…AND MY FRIENDS!

We all are healthy and deserve to be happy, striving, dazzling beings of light ….be our own doctors…counsellors, problem resolvers, motivators…If we enlist their help to remove despair, depression, conflict, disharmony…we would do away with lot of life punishing situations we create…or best bounce back with double rigour out of any situations we don’t like…

ANGELS WILL GUIDE US WITH THEIR LIGHT FOR THEIR MISSION IS A HAPPY HUMANITY…

SO IS THE MISSION OF HEALINITYY…..Come and claim your share of health and mental wealth and learn to heal and discover your divinity!

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